Tips for chatting with girls, making it easy to close the distance between you.

In this complex world, people's actions and passions are often driven by their interests. Of course, benefits are not limited to material things; in interpersonal communication, they also cover the acquisition of emotions. In equal relationships, ease, comfort and pleasure become key words.

However, it is not possible to create such an atmosphere and reap the benefits of good communication in chatting with a sincere heart and real self-expression alone. When chatting with people, especially women, it's important to master certain skills.

As the saying goes, 'you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry'; in the process of chatting, we need to exploit the curiosity and mystery between us to draw closer quickly, but we mustn't be too hasty. Many guys find it easy to misunderstand this, often failing to grasp the rhythm of relationship development.

So, what practical skills are needed when chatting with girls? Remember the following six words and you can easily handle a variety of chat situations!

1. Avoid the 'checking the family' style of opening.

Asking each other about personal and family situations in a question-and-answer format often makes the conversation boring and undermines goodwill. It cannot fundamentally mobilise the other party's enthusiasm and cannot achieve the real 'interactive' effect. If you ask too many questions, the other person will also become bored. In fact, as you get to know each other better, the information you want to know will slowly emerge. It is better to use hobbies as a topic because the other person's situation is specific and will not change immediately. The key to getting a girl is whether or not you can chat. As long as you can talk to her, you have an 80% chance of success. Therefore, learning to chat is essential. If you find chatting difficult, you can try finding a top mind map on chatting in my public number, Old Wang, the Heart Hunter. This will help you understand when to be humorous and when to show high emotional intelligence. You will also get a set of top words to help you deal with all kinds of situations easily.

2. Don't continue chatting if you're feeling awkward.

It's normal to encounter awkwardness when chatting because, in addition to intentions, it also depends on the situation, environment and mood. Therefore, trying to force a topic or continuing with uninteresting topics will only be counterproductive. If you can't find the right topic and it's clear that the other person isn't in the mood to chat, give each other a little respite and the opportunity to adjust. This will at least prevent the other person from hating you.

3. Don't try to change each other through arguing.

We all have different needs, ideas and likes. You like sports and she likes reading books — there is no right or wrong. Without a deep emotional foundation, trying to change each other's minds through arguments is a bad idea. Two people in a relationship should respect and accept each other's preferences and opinions. You cannot always insist that you are right and deny the other person's point of view.

4. Let the other person speak more; say less.

As the famous psychologist Dale Carnegie once said, “Many people are unable to be good communicators, mainly because they only talk about things that interest them, which are boring to others.” You have to understand that most people in this world prefer to listen to others. The more you let the other person talk, the easier and quicker it is to create a special connection. Don't interrupt the other person while they're talking; act as if you're listening.

5. Learn how to respond to each other; do not be perfunctory.

When chatting on social media, try to avoid single-word replies such as 'Oh', as these will only be interpreted as perfunctory and indifferent. This will ultimately lead to a loss of interest in chatting. You have to take the other person's feelings into account to make them want to say 'yes' — show responsiveness, recognition and enthusiasm.

6. Share your innermost thoughts.

Sharing your most authentic self and your experiences and emotions will make the other person feel trusted, and they will be willing to trust you in return. However, be careful not to reveal too much about yourself, exaggerate or present yourself in a way that makes you seem boastful. Even if you are knowledgeable, don't undersell yourself. If you're really good at something, you don't need to prove it.

In life, some people meet and instantly dislike each other, but this is unlikely. So most people still need to use skills to establish a foundation for a relationship. Even if two people have very positive feelings towards each other, this is certainly not the foundation of a relationship. This also means that tolerating some of your excessive behaviour is not enough for the other person.

However, once you have established a deep emotional connection, you can talk about whatever you want because you know each other well and there will be no misunderstandings or sensitivity about certain things. These techniques are not camouflage or deception; they are just a way of avoiding destroying that initial good feeling and facilitating the establishment of the next relationship. Although boys should take the initiative, they should not lose sight of proportion and boundaries, otherwise they will