20 high-EQ chatting tips

Having positive emotional intelligence means thinking more about others, not setting them up.

If you are sincere, many problems will be solved.

1.Chat less with me and more with others. Don't just talk to yourself; find out what others need.

2.Secondly, when giving advice, start with affirmation before making suggestions. Change 'I think you are wrong' to 'I think this is better'. For example, when you realise the other person is wrong, you could say, 'Just now...'. I agree with the point that was made, but I also think that... Isn't that OK?"

3.When others praise you, you can acknowledge the compliment and then highlight the advantages. For example, if someone compliments you by saying, 'You look beautiful today.' You could reply, 'You have a good eye — you look good too!'

4.When others have to ask you something, you can suggest methods and give yourself room. For example: 'I'll try to do this thing. I think I can do it... I'll try, but I don't know if it's going to work. I'll do my best.'

5.To create a pleasant atmosphere, don't just chat about nothing; create a topic. Pay more attention to others and you will find more details in the place of enlargement. For example, the other person might say, 'The weather today is very good.' You could reply, 'Yes, I also think such weather is very suitable for going out to play.'

6. Show more empathy and learn to listen rather than reason. No one wants to listen to reasoning; people are more willing to listen to whether you understand their needs. When a friend complains about their family, don't tell them how happy you are or offer suggestions straight away. Pay attention to their emotions first, and then mention the solution!

7. Don't blame others when things don't go as expected. Think about how to solve the problem and suggest that you can solve it together.

8. Understand what the other person needs to say and don't always impose your own views and ideas on them.

9. Praise others. You can use the 'impression of the fallout method', such as originally thinking you had this skill, but then realising that they achieved it in their own way, which surprises people. If you let a person be too surprised, they will think you are too good.

10. Express gratitude to others. Describe the event, how you felt, why you want to express gratitude and what you learnt or gained.

11. When the leader says that hard work is important, you can say: 'Nothing, it's what I should do. Thank you for your leadership and concern.'

After expressing your point of view, you can ask the other person if they understand. Is there anything else I need to make clearer?

13. You don't always have to show off. Know how to show weakness. Sometimes, you are very powerful and don't need to show it everywhere. Do altruistic things naturally and others will know.

14. Take the initiative to resolve embarrassing situations, sometimes with a sense of humour.

15) If you are not familiar with someone, do not ask about their privacy or do anything that might offend them.

16. Do not make arbitrary judgements or point fingers when you do not know the people or things.

17. Do not talk about others behind their backs or spread bad words about others or secrets you know.

18. Do not set the bar too high for others. Do not assume that others are familiar with you and always like to joke around.

19. Don't talk about others behind their backs. Knowing what to keep to yourself is emotional intelligence.

20. Think more and do not be self-centred.

San Mao once said, 'A calm demeanour is more effective than an aggressive attitude.'

Having high emotional intelligence means speaking and acting in a way that makes others comfortable without depressing yourself.

This means considering the other person's feelings and not just your own.

I hope we can all learn to communicate in a positive and effective way, becoming highly emotionally intelligent in the process.