Master these skills and you will no longer find girls' chats cold and embarrassing.

Many brothers tell me that they don't chat with girls because they can't think of anything to talk about. They either chat for a few minutes and then it gets awkward, or they don't know how to continue the conversation. If you don't know what to talk about with girls and the conversation is always cold and uninteresting, then the girls will lose interest in you and contact you less and less until you become just another passer-by.

　　In my opinion, chatting happily with girls and emotionally mobilising them is not as difficult as we think; many brothers just do not understand the principle and do not know how to operate. When you chat with girls, you have to fully demonstrate your personality and attitude to establish a connection and sense of security with her, so that she feels you are a boy who brings her joy. If you just chat with girls every day about eating, sleeping, playing and saying 'good morning' and 'good evening', then ultimately you will become strangers. Below, I will give you some tips on chatting with girls, so that you no longer feel cold and awkward when chatting with them.

　　Firstly, avoid question-and-answer dialogue.

　　What is a question-and-answer dialogue? Put simply, don't play the 'ask me to answer' game. In other words, don't ask questions that are too personal! Remember the chance encounter between Julie and Depp on the train in their previous film, The Tourist? There was an interesting exchange of dialogue. Angelina Jolie says to the male lead, ‘You buy me dinner.’ He replies, 'Can I buy you dinner?' She replies, 'Women don't like to be asked questions.' He replies, 'Go to dinner with me.' She replied, 'It's too reckless.' He asked, 'Will you have dinner with me?' She said, “You're asking questions again.” He replied, 'I want to eat, but I can't eat without you.' One sentence conveys feelings and creates a connection. Remember to make more declarative statements and ask fewer questions.

Secondly, when it comes to finding topics around the hobby, look for the topic of the ‘resonance point’.

If you are only good at C and Java, then unfortunately, most girls won't be able to communicate with you. It's not because you're not good at what you do; it's just that it's boring to talk to you.

　　Everyone has their own hobbies, so when you talk to someone about yours, you've found a common interest. Everyone has their own hobbies and interests, and even a quiet person can become eloquent when talking about their hobbies and interests. However, when you first meet someone, you don't know what their interests are. What should you do? It doesn't matter — you can talk about your own interests. Attract jade with a brick, and then search for resonance in each other's interests to increase understanding and deepen feelings. This will also stimulate the other person's enthusiasm for the conversation and encourage them to engage with your topic. The simplest thing to do is to look through her circle of friends to find out what she likes and dislikes.

　　Thirdly, maintain a sense of humour.

When it comes to chatting skills for chasing girls, there is one thing that is invaluable, and that is a sense of humour. A sense of humour is a tried-and-tested skill for chatting with girls. We all know the importance of humour, but not everyone does. Here are a few humorous tips to help you out.

　　1. Reverse the order of words. Even if the order of the words is reversed, it still constitutes a legitimate sentence and often creates humour and accidents. For example, I gave a girl my sunglasses to try on and then complimented her on how nice they looked. She said, 'With my face shape, any sunglasses look good on me.' I replied, 'My sunglasses suit any face shape.' The girl said, 'I don't like that bar.' I replied, 'Well, that bar doesn't like you either.' She said, 'Every time I see you, you're in this bar.' I said, 'You're wrong; I see you

　2. Stealing lines. 'Grabbing the line' means saying what the girl wants to say. Sometimes it means speaking before the girl, and sometimes it means repeating what she has said or her mantra. Surprising the girl by saying what she wants to say before she says it creates humour. You can repeat this mantra in various situations while talking to a girl. "I hate it when it rains." 'I hate crossing the street.' 'I hate going to dinner.' 'I hate eating Hunan food.' Imitating the girl's tone and expression when delivering these lines can strengthen their comedic effect.

　　3. Give her a nickname. ‘Anything that was funny in Year 4 is still funny when you're older. Nicknames have been one of our favourite games since primary school, and I remember spending an afternoon trying to come up with a nickname for each teacher and classmate. Not only are nicknames humorous, they also make people feel close. If no one else knows the nickname you gave her, it's just between the two of you, and that creates a special bond.

Fourthly, maintain the same frequency of chat.

As the name suggests, chatting is exchanging information with each other. More precisely, it is the exchange of high-value information between the two sexes in order to open up a topic — never a monologue about a person. So remember to never enter self-improvement mode. When appropriate, give girls the opportunity to speak and share, and remember not to be in a hurry! Many guys are too anxious and impatient!

　2. Stealing lines. 'Grabbing the line' means saying what the girl wants to say. Sometimes it means speaking before the girl, and sometimes it means repeating what she has said or her mantra. Surprising the girl by saying what she wants to say before she says it creates humour. You can repeat this mantra in various situations while talking to a girl. "I hate it when it rains." 'I hate crossing the street.' 'I hate going to dinner.' 'I hate eating Hunan food.' Imitating the girl's tone and expression when delivering these lines can strengthen their comedic effect.

　　3. Give her a nickname. ‘Anything that was funny in Year 4 is still funny when you're older. Nicknames have been one of our favourite games since primary school, and I remember spending an afternoon trying to come up with a nickname for each teacher and classmate. Not only are nicknames humorous, they also make people feel close. If no one else knows the nickname you gave her, it's just between the two of you, and that creates a special bond.

Fourthly, maintain the same frequency of chat.

As the name suggests, chatting is exchanging information with each other. More precisely, it is the exchange of high-value information between the two sexes in order to open up a topic — never a monologue about a person. So remember to never enter self-improvement mode. When appropriate, give girls the opportunity to speak and share, and remember not to be in a hurry! Many guys are too anxious and impatient!