What happens when a man becomes a woman's spare part?

How to take back the initiative when you're the spare tyre? First, analyse why girls take you as a spare wheel. There are only three reasons:

1. You did not meet the girl's expectations.

2. Your conditions are OK, but you did not meet her expectations. She had to settle for second best when there was no better choice. Inside, she thinks you are stupid and is afraid of missing out on someone better. Over time, you have become a spare tyre.

In this situation, you can only improve yourself to meet her expectations. I don't believe you can do this in a short period of time. In addition to preparing for a long-term battle, the correct way to improve is the only good way.

2. The girl has too many choices.

She is surrounded by many options and everyone's conditions are very good. She is hesitant and does not know which one to choose. In the process of deciding, you have naturally become a spare wheel.

This situation can be solved. Many people's conditions are almost the same as yours, so why choose you? The only reason is that he sees you every day. If you find yourself becoming a spare wheel, the only solution is to find opportunities to chat with her every day. In the process of chatting, she will find you boring, alone and with nothing to do. She will invite you out to meet her more often and naturally spend less time chatting with other men. Over time, you will be at the centre of her life and she will not know what to do. Over time, you will account for most of her time, and the other men will naturally become alienated. From their point of view, they will slowly become lukewarm. If you are lukewarm, but they are more enthusiastic, you will naturally succeed.

3) They do not see your value.

She simply can't see your situation, but you could offer additional value in the form of companionship, material things, and so on. The girl is with you because of the interests of the relationship, rather than because of feelings.

In this situation, I suggest continuing to provide value so that it becomes a necessity in her life. That is, when you are not around, her life will be worse and she will feel a void. At this time, try talking about her feelings. Often, the girl will be confused about whether she is attached to you because of the conditions or not. If it's because of the conditions, then at this time it's often difficult to judge whether she's with you because of the conditions or because she's attached to you.