Talking to girls from a female perspective.

Many guys complain that it is very tiring to get along with girls. They do not know what they are thinking or what they want. The two always seem to be 'chicken with the duck'. They cannot talk to each other, let alone develop a stable emotional relationship.

Boys feel that getting along with a girl is very hard and requires a lot of attention, but girls always feel that boys do not understand them and that boys can never find the right 'trick' to draw closer to them.

In fact, not only are boys and girls physically different, they also think differently.

So, when it comes to interpreting the same sentence or thing, the two people's focus may be completely different. This often leads to problems, differences and contradictions in communication and exchange, which affects the development of the relationship.

Many guys complain that it is very tiring to get along with girls. They do not know what they are thinking or what they want. The two always seem to be 'chicken with the duck'. They cannot talk to each other, let alone develop a stable emotional relationship.

Boys feel that getting along with a girl is very hard and requires a lot of attention, but girls always feel that boys do not understand them and that boys can never find the right 'trick' to draw closer to them.

In fact, not only are boys and girls physically different, they also think differently.

So, when it comes to interpreting the same sentence or thing, the two people's focus may be completely different. This often leads to problems, differences and contradictions in communication and exchange, which affects the development of the relationship.

Have you ever experienced any of the following problems when trying to get along with girls?

1. Chatting with girls is always very awkward and 'dry'. The two people cannot talk to each other and, after chatting for a while, feel that it is meaningless. The girl's feedback is not very good and the conversation has to end hastily.

2. When getting along with girls, they often get angry for no reason and you don't know what you said or did wrong.

3. The reason for rejection by girls is often, 'You're a nice person, but I don't have any feelings for you.'

Most single boys will encounter these problems when trying to get along with girls, and some boys will feel that girls are too fake or that they are too bad and cannot see themselves.

In fact, this is not the case; most of this situation occurs because of the differences in thinking between men and women.

Boys look at girls' eyes to see what is most important, so they are easily attracted to a girl's appearance. But girls often rely on their feelings about boys, and the more careful they are, the more likely they are to be disappointed.

The reason why 'scum' and 'scum' are easily liked by the opposite sex is that they understand how the opposite sex thinks and know how to get along with them.

So, if you want to get along with the opposite sex more effectively, you should learn more about the differences in thinking between men and women. This will help you to change your methods and attitudes, get into each other's hearts and establish and maintain emotional relationships more easily.

If you want to successfully attract single boys, you need to understand how girls think and master communication skills. Then it will be much easier to get along with girls than if you put in twice the effort.

The difference in thinking between men and women:

Boys focus on logic, while girls are more concerned about attitude.

In the process of communication and interaction, boys often focus on the thing itself and think directly about how to express themselves without screening or modifying what they say.

However, girls are not too concerned about whether you are logical or reasonable; they are more concerned about the attitude of the boys. This difference in thinking often causes communication conflicts.

For example, if you chat with an ambiguous girl at night and it's eleven or twelve o'clock and you're very sleepy, but you've just finished talking about a topic, how will you end the conversation?

Many boys will tell the girl directly: ‘No, I'm too sleepy. Go to sleep first. We can chat tomorrow.’ This is a typical example of straight thinking. The girl will think, 'You're treating me like a tool to pass the time. You only want to chat when you're not sleepy. You don't care what I think.' Girls will definitely mark you down in their minds.

Some guys will say, 'It's late and you need your beauty sleep. Go to bed early and I'll chat to you tomorrow.' This answer is better than the last one because it considers the girl. In her heart, she won't deduct points, but she won't add any either.

The boy wanted to say that Vivian was special to him. However, when she heard him, she immediately asked, ‘Do you mean I'm not good-looking enough?’

He replied, 'That's not what I meant.'

Vivian asked, 'Then what do you mean?'

He replied, 'I mean you're special to me.'

Vivian added, 'Yes, it's special, but not good-looking enough.'

The boy said, ‘Why are you misinterpreting me so much?’

Vivian: 'That's what you meant; you think you're good-looking!'

The boy said, ‘Why are you being so unreasonable?’

Vivian: 'You said I'm not attractive; you're being unreasonable!'

The two people didn't argue openly; Xiaowei angrily deleted the boy's contact details.

If you've ever been in a relationship with a man, you'll be familiar with the above argument. The guy thought the girl's understanding was inexplicable, but that's a typical way for women to think.

If you want to avoid this kind of situation, talk to the girl and make sure you focus on the word 'you'.

For example, if you say, 'I saw the most special person in the crowd at once and didn't notice anyone else,' the guy will still say this. The girl will be happy and won't misinterpret your meaning.

Boys talk about things; girls talk about people.

Boys prioritise discussing the thing itself, especially the actual thing, while girls prioritise discussing people, especially themselves.

If boys and girls chat in a way that appeals to women, girls tend to chat happily and it is easier for the two people to enhance their relationship.

A girl might say, 'It's a beautiful day!' The guy replies, ‘It's your mood, isn't it?’ This is how women think about chatting.

A girl tells you, 'I've just finished watching Ex 3 and I'm tearing up.'

Most guys will probably say whether or not they've watched it. There's nothing wrong with that answer, and they'll probably talk about the plot of the film next. It's just chatting, though.

However, if the guy focuses on the characters, he could ask, ‘Which character do you empathise with the most?’

The conversation will then go deeper, moving from the plot of the film to the girl's feelings and her views on relationships.

In short, the topic should be transferred to the girl's feelings, so she'll be more willing to talk to you. The more she talks about her feelings and emotions, the more interesting the chat will be, and the more conducive it will be to communicating emotions.

Boys who hear complaints should focus on solving the problem, whereas girls who complain just want to talk.

Boys who want to get along with girls will certainly encounter complaints, such as complaints about the boss, the weather, not being able to take a taxi, and period tummy aches.

When boys face these complaints, the most common response is to offer no consolation.

If you can't immediately help a girl solve a problem, don't give her any unconstructive advice. First show understanding, and then divert her attention to help her overcome negative emotions.

For example, if a girl complains that the weather is bad or that she cannot get a taxi, you can help her by getting her a car or picking her up immediately.

But if the girl has been scolded by her leader or is experiencing stomach pain, for example, you cannot solve these problems directly. In these cases, you can help her distract herself from her negative emotions.

If she says she was scolded by her boss, you could say, 'Encountering such a boss is really difficult, I especially understand you. You work so hard, but he can't see that — must be a problem with his eyes!'

When she feels understood, her negative emotions will ease a lot. Then you can say, 'Don't be angry. I found a hot pot restaurant that's especially delicious. You'll love it. I'll take you there in a moment.' By diverting her attention, she will soon be able to get rid of this negative emotion and will not only not be angry with you, but will also feel that you are especially sweet.

If you can't immediately help a girl solve a problem, don't give her any unconstructive advice. First show understanding, and then divert her attention to help her overcome negative emotions.

For example, if a girl complains that the weather is bad or that she cannot get a taxi, you can help her by getting her a car or picking her up immediately.

But if the girl has been scolded by her leader or is experiencing stomach pain, for example, you cannot solve these problems directly. In these cases, you can help her distract herself from her negative emotions.

If she says she was scolded by her boss, you could say, 'Encountering such a boss is really difficult, I especially understand you. You work so hard, but he can't see that — must be a problem with his eyes!'

When she feels understood, her negative emotions will ease a lot. Then you can say, 'Don't be angry. I found a hot pot restaurant that's especially delicious. You'll love it. I'll take you there in a moment.' By diverting her attention, she will soon be able to get rid of this negative emotion and will not only not be angry with you, but will also feel that you are especially sweet.

5. Boys tend to summarise their thoughts, while girls tend to think divergently.

Two good friends chatting will usually have a theme, such as how work is going recently, and then all the chat will be around that subject and will not veer too far off topic.

But girls are different. Girlfriends chat without a specific theme, moving from shopping to parenting to gossip to make-up to international and domestic politics, and then back to shopping. You will find that they never run out of things to say — it's a torrent of words, the sky is the limit.

Girls' conversations are especially scattered. They think of what to talk about and boys always feel unable to keep up with their ideas when chatting with them.

There is a simple way to join in with girls' conversations: first of all, try to understand what they are talking about. If you don't quite understand, don't worry — just focus on one part of the conversation and expand on it.